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Mar 3, 2005 20:05:54 GMT 10
Post by David on Mar 3, 2005 20:05:54 GMT 10
do you find out if someone is single without asking them? Like if there's someone you like and you don't want to be embarrassed by asking them out only to find they are taken. There must be some way to get it out of them without making it obvious that you have a reason in wanting to know...
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Mar 4, 2005 12:45:33 GMT 10
Post by bbg on Mar 4, 2005 12:45:33 GMT 10
You just gotta ask the person, David. Probably it is worth it if u like the person. Take a chance.
Peace,
Regina
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Mar 4, 2005 17:56:14 GMT 10
Post by GuyisMyNumber1 on Mar 4, 2005 17:56:14 GMT 10
i say ask her friends... why davidgot a woman ur after
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Mar 5, 2005 10:42:08 GMT 10
Post by David on Mar 5, 2005 10:42:08 GMT 10
Actually there's two I'm interested in at the moment. I see the first most weeks at an event I go to. I probably would have made my move a couple of days ago, but she wasn't there. I don't know how old she is, but I think she's about twice my age! The other I only just met. I don't know who I'll make the move on. Probably whoever I see first!
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Mar 6, 2005 10:09:42 GMT 10
Post by GuyisMyNumber1 on Mar 6, 2005 10:09:42 GMT 10
lol u go tiger roar
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Mar 6, 2005 11:14:18 GMT 10
Post by bbg on Mar 6, 2005 11:14:18 GMT 10
lol u go tiger roar BAHAHAHAHAHA!!! HeHe!!! So funny! Erm, Davey....go for the chick who is closer to your age. Twice your age?? sorry, but that is waaaaaaay too old for ya!!! Anyway, good luck!!! Peace baby, Regina
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Mar 6, 2005 16:16:57 GMT 10
Post by td on Mar 6, 2005 16:16:57 GMT 10
But toy-boys are the go at the mo Reg......
I wanna toy-boy.....any idea who? heheheheeee
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Mar 6, 2005 16:46:45 GMT 10
Post by David on Mar 6, 2005 16:46:45 GMT 10
Erm, Davey....go for the chick who is closer to your age. Twice your age?? sorry, but that is waaaaaaay too old for ya!!! What are you, nuts??? You gotta stop believing what other people tell you! I can't help but point out that you have a lot of close friends who are half your age. In fact, many are quite a bit younger than half your age! If you are good friends with people half your age or less than half your age, why do you dismiss having a relationship with a guy half your age? Do you imagine there to be a difference between having a relationship with someone as a friend and a relationship with them as a partner? If you can be close friends with someone half your age then you can have a relationship with someone half your age. I don't think you've realized the logical inconsistency in your beliefs. So what is the minimum age that you would say is 'too old' for me, a 27 year-old? Give me a number and give an accompanying explanation as to why you are certain that that number is correct. If you were to give 39 as that number then that would be to say that it would be okay for me to be in a relationship with a woman who is 38 years and 364 days old but not a woman one day older. That would border on the absurd. Opposites don't tend to attract, but that doesn't mean no people of vastly different ages aren't right for each other. Many are quite happy together... or am I to believe that their relationships aren't really as good as they look? Do you have an observationally-based test for determining whether to be in a relationship with a person, or is it solely predicated on finding out their age? What if you are interested in being in a relationship with a person but then find that, shock, horror, they are MUCH younger than they look, half your age in fact? Are you telling me you would change your mind about the person? There has to be some way of finding a person that doesn't involve finding out their age. As far as that 'older woman' is concerned, it is incredibly unlikely but possible that she is in fact less than ten years older than me. It's possible that she might just look really really old for her age. I'm surprised at you for advising me against going for this woman when I don't know her age and am guessing based on her looks. After all, if people often take you to be more than ten years younger then guys might exclude you for being 'too young' when you are in fact in their age range. So no I'm not convinced that anyone much older than me is 'too old' for me. If I can have good friends that age, people who really interest me, then surely I can have partners that age. There's one thing I would recommend you do, and that's to go down to your local video store and rent a copy of a movie called 'How Stella Got Her Groove Back.' You gotta get your groove back, girl! Live a little! Fight the power! Anyway, in order to convince me here you'll have to avoid generalizations and show why being in a relationship with a person half one's age (and vice versa) is wrong, whereas being a close friend of a person of the same age is fine. I don't see a difference with romance. It's just the same friendly relationship with kissing, sex etc added on.
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Mar 6, 2005 18:26:29 GMT 10
Post by bbg on Mar 6, 2005 18:26:29 GMT 10
Yes, it is true what you say. I have lots of friend half my age. But dating someone half my age is a bit different. I say this because men, generally speaking of course and I am sure that there are exceptions, mature ALOT slower than women do. Why? Because many times, again, not always of course, men are not wired to understand their emotions and all of the things that come along with them. THAT is a nutshell is my reasoning.
And if you think that having friendships and having a relationship are the same thing....good luck to you. In theory, of course, this seems to be the LOGICAL thing. However, you will find that when EMOTIONS are thrown in there (which are NOT logical AT ALL) well, believe me, it changes things tremendously. Should you be friends with the person that you are in a relationship? Of course!! But I tell ya David...throw those relationship emotions in there and ya got a whole different thang goin on!!
And, I am kinda thinking that the fact that you think that these two types of relationships are the same thing, well, kinda proves my point!!!
And, NO I don't have an observationally based test, silly!! It is just called wisdom that one gathers throughout life!!
peace to ya bro!
Regina
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Mar 6, 2005 18:29:44 GMT 10
Post by bbg on Mar 6, 2005 18:29:44 GMT 10
But toy-boys are the go at the mo Reg...... BAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Yes, they seem to make a noice "handbag"!! All of HeHe! [/size][/color][/quote] Erm, well, ahhhhh, can you give me a clue? ? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D Peace, The Reg ;D
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Mar 6, 2005 18:40:59 GMT 10
Post by td on Mar 6, 2005 18:40:59 GMT 10
Erm, well, ahhhhh, can you give me a clue? ? If oi give you a clue, it'd probably sound a bit FISHY! bahahaaa
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Mar 6, 2005 18:44:54 GMT 10
Post by bbg on Mar 6, 2005 18:44:54 GMT 10
If oi give you a clue, it'd probably sound a bit FISHY! bahahaaa
BAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Ohhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Yes, well and WHAT a cute lil "handbag" indeed!!! Peace, REg
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Mar 6, 2005 20:00:11 GMT 10
Post by David on Mar 6, 2005 20:00:11 GMT 10
And if you think that having friendships and having a relationship are the same thing....good luck to you. In theory, of course, this seems to be the LOGICAL thing. However, you will find that when EMOTIONS are thrown in there (which are NOT logical AT ALL) well, believe me, it changes things tremendously. Should you be friends with the person that you are in a relationship? Of course!! But I tell ya David...throw those relationship emotions in there and ya got a whole different thang goin on!! And, I am kinda thinking that the fact that you think that these two types of relationships are the same thing, well, kinda proves my point!!! I'm not entirely sure I understand your explanation, having read it a few times, but going by what I think you mean I don't agree. You wrongly think I disagree with what you say above. I'm not disputing your facts. But it seems that when you are referring to what does happen when emotions are throwing in you are GENERALIZING it to the average man. You are assuming this male you refer to is far from perfect as far as his relationship skills are concerned. I'm talking about the perhaps few younger men who are masters of their emotions and are very good in a relationship. It's not like all men are hopeless so some will do pretty well when emotions are thrown in. Yes, both men and women may do worse in that situation. It may be more of a test, but two mature people can get through it easily. You refer to the people who have troubles in relationships, but when I look at those people it's clear they've got issues. You are referring to society in a gloomy fact-based way, whereas I'm talking of what is possible. And it seems we are both agreed that it is possible that a relationship can work between two people of vastly differing ages. It's not that difficult to determine whether a young male is mature, is it? If we do agree then either you were generalizing when you said that woman is too old for me or you think I'm immature! Anyway, I do believe that if you have a model couple being in a relationship wouldn't be much different to them being friends. You agree, right?
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Mar 7, 2005 8:33:47 GMT 10
Post by bbg on Mar 7, 2005 8:33:47 GMT 10
OK
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Mar 7, 2005 8:34:32 GMT 10
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